Let’s have ‘conversations’ that add value

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Wonder if this is the sort of thing Steve is referring to?

<Steve: yes it is which is why I have deleted that post too>

I also find it interesting that a moderator chose to lock this topic and leave it on display rather than delete it altogether.

Kind Regards,
Sonja

Hi
The very first post that I made asking for a suggestion, I was called STUPID for even thinking what I was planning to do. That put me off for a minute, but I brushed it off and went on. As I read on with interest everyday, there are certain posts that make me flinch hard and think OUCH! THAT WOULD HURT!.
I don’t understand why people have to be so harsh in replying or commenting, seems to me kind of ‘one up thing’.
I agree with Steve – If we don’t have something constructive to say in a sweet manner, don’t say anything.
For what it is worth – my opinion.
Padma

My personal belief is that I am responsible for my own actions. I hope that I don’t use other people’s behaviour, appropriate or otherwise, to justify my actions. I also believe that all people deserve to be treated with respect – regardless of their mistakes, flaws or differences in opinion. At the same time, I’ll say again, we should all be held responsible for our actions.

I think it is a pretty sad state of affairs when Steve has to start a thread such as this. Personally I like Rob and appreciate his input. That was not always the case. Back in April (Hi Rob:) don’t take this the wrong way) when he was having a rather vitriolic exchange with another forumite I also consider a friend (Hi Jo) I was quite scared of him. But both of them have shown enough character to get past it. Just BTW (although I have had little or no personal contact) I also have great respect for the other forumites who have been involved in more recent differences with Rob.

I guess, perhaps, I am being more than a little idealistic here but I would like to get past the rather ugly personal conflict that has crept into the public forum. I have been around long enough and read enough posts to say that it seems out of character for the more established forumites. As for the newbies who start off by deliberatly and agressively antagonising others… well I’ll hold off on forming an opinion because I just don’t know where you are comming from.

Sorry to get on my soap-box here but truth is I’m just sick of it. I think PI.com is great and so are the peole here. I guess I’ll just leave it at that.

Kind Regards,
Sonja

I do enjoy my time on this forum and certainly find it educational, but I have been disappointed by the amount of backbiting and snarling going on. Is it just that everyone’s a bit fed up with school hols and the Christmas rush? I find it embarrassing, to be honest. I wanted to share the Derivex information with my parents but apologised to them for the verbal abuse the thread contained. It certainly doesn’t give a great impression to others. Is it that we are all getting too familiar with each other and “familiarity breeds contempt”? There’s certainly not a great deal of respect between certain people. Sure, certain folk get on my nerves but I am not about to rip their heart out publicly and stomp on it.

I would like to think that just because I may post something quickly without putting it past an editor or spellchecker, that I wouldn’t be shot down in flames, but this has been happening a lot lately. We are all at different stages, so lets just accept each other as we are, instead of following the pack and verbally flicking spitballs at each other like school children. [baaa]

How about it, guys!?

I could not agree more. Let sanity prevail and may we all possess that in our minds. Amen.

Wow Steve,

I admire you for that…

That's a very great thing you know.

For a change, let's all do it.